SABBIR AHMED · Registered Psychotherapist (UKCP) & Therapeutic Coach
Compassionate, evidence-based therapy to help you understand your emotions, build stable relationships, and create a life worth living.
Navigating recurring conflict, feeling more like flatmates than partners, or wanting to strengthen a good relationship? I provide a calm, structured space for you as a couple to reconnect and move forward, without committing to open-ended therapy.
SABBIR AHMED · Registered Psychotherapist (UKCP) & Therapeutic Coach
Compassionate, evidence-based therapy to help you understand your emotions, build stable relationships, and create a life worth living.
Navigating recurring conflict, feeling more like flatmates thsn partners, or wanting to strengthen a good relationship? I provide a calm, structured space for you as a couple to reconnect and move forward, without committing to open-ended therapy.
Relationships can swing between intense closeness and painful distance. Over time, it feels like you are always repairing damage or bracing for the next hit.
You may constantly scan for signs of withdrawal or “impending doom,” driving over-checking or reassurance-seeking. Alternatively, you might shut down entirely to avoid further conflict.
Arguments hit fast and hard, making it impossible to hear each other once triggered. The fallout: regret, exhaustion, and feeling “out of control”, often lasts much longer than the disagreement itself.
You might feel you’ve lost who you are within the relationship, leading to people-pleasing or sudden shifts in life direction that leave both of you feeling empty.
In the heat of the moment, an urge to lash out or “leave” can feel non-negotiable. Then comes the guilt and the erosion of safety and trust.
You may feel numb, disconnected, or like you’re living as “roommates” rather than partners. When you can’t access shared emotion, life together starts to feel flat.
I can help you overcome the fears and obstacles in your life.
Psychotherapist (UKCP) & Therapeutic Coach (EMCC)
I’m Sabbir Ahmed, a UKCP-registered psychotherapist and EMCC-accredited therapeutic coach with over a decade of experience supporting couples to rebuild and strengthen their relationships. I specialise in DBT and family therapy approaches, working from both my Harley Street practice and City Road clinic in London, as well as offering online relationship counseling across the UK.
My approach combines clinical rigour with genuine warmth. I understand how relationship difficulties can feel, and I’m committed to creating a therapeutic space where you feel safe to explore your emotions, challenge unhelpful patterns, and build the life you deserve. Whether you’re seeking a couple therapist in London for the first time or looking for a different approach, I’m here to help.
Every couples therapy session is connected to your real-world challenges, differences, emotional needs and similarities. We don’t just discuss the relationship, but provide a safe space to work on and overcome the challenge you actually face.
With more than a decade of experience as a couples therapist in London, including NHS and private practice, I bring deep clinical expertise to every session. I am UKCP registered and trained in CBT and DBT, with specialist knowledge of family therapy.
In relationships where one of the partners is neurodiverse, different communication styles, processing differences and sensory differences can impact daily interactions. My couples therapy practice is informed by a thorough understanding of these differences and how they can play out in relationships.
I work with clients from all backgrounds, cultures, and identities. Whether you’re a young professional, a parent, or someone navigating a life transition, my approach to couples counselling adapts to you.
Couples therapy that considers cultural awareness (including cultural differences between partners), spiritual sensitivity, and lifestyle. I factor this into a couples counselling programme that respects who you both are.
We set measurable therapy goals from the start and track your progress. Rebuilding a relationship is a journey, not a quick fix, and I’m committed to walking it with you, with regular reviews to keep you on track.
Choose the format that works best for you. I offer couples therapy face-to-face at two convenient London locations, as well as secure online sessions for couples anywhere in the UK.
Whether you prefer the structured environment of an in-person session or the flexibility of online therapy, the quality of care remains the same.
Locations (in-person):
Online: Secure video sessions UK-wide
Clarify your vision
We start by mapping the cycle you get caught in, whether it’s pursue/withdraw or shut down/escalate.
This isn’t about blaming a “villain”; it’s about identifying the “dance” so you can both learn how to exit it. Your free discovery call is the first step in clarifying this path.
Create your system
Together, we upgrade your communication with simple scripts for bids, boundaries, and difficult conversations.
We develop personalised strategies for repair after conflict, utilizing apology languages and de-escalation tools you can use between sessions and for the rest of your lives.
Strengthen & sustain
We solidify your progress by strengthening friendship and intimacy, through daily micro-connections which align your priorities, from parenting to finances.
We celebrate breakthroughs and prepare you for a fulfilling life together, with or without ongoing support.
With Sabbir’s support, my confidence soared and within six months my income had grown fivefold
Clients who commit to couples therapy consistently report meaningful, lasting changes. Here’s what working together can look like:
Move beyond the "attack-defend" cycle with practical tools to manage high-intensity moments before they escalate. You’ll learn to pause, co-regulate, and respond to each other’s needs rather than reacting to their defenses.
Healthy relationships require clear boundaries that protect individual energy while maintaining closeness. Learn to say what you need and set limits without the fear of triggering rejection or causing a "blow-up."
Break the painful cycle of intense bonding followed by sudden distance. We work on building a "stable middle ground" where trust is consistent and both partners feel safe enough to be vulnerable.
Rediscover who you are as a couple without losing your individual selves. We use integrated therapy models to help you build a coherent "we" that supports, rather than stifles, your personal growth.
Build a secure attachment that doesn't rely on constant reassurance or "checking in." Learn to trust the durability of your connection so you can navigate time apart or disagreements without a sense of impending loss.
Ready to rebuild your relationship? Let’s start today.
It’s coaching informed by psychotherapy skills. If therapy or individual work would serve you better, I’ll advise and can help you switch pathways.
Yes—many couples find video sessions convenient. In‑person appointments are available in London EC1.
Where helpful, we can schedule brief individual check‑ins by agreement; the main work happens together.
We’ll create safety first (time‑outs, rules of engagement). If there are safeguarding concerns, I’ll signpost specialist support.
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